We switched Emilee to a new barn for her riding lessons in March. She seems to be really liking the new place. She has been progressing a lot. For the school talent show at the end of the year she asked me to take a video of her at her riding lesson to show for the talent show.
Emilee also played volleyball again this Spring. She asked to do it and was excited to go to practices and games. For all other sports besides horse riding we have had to make her ‘just try it’ and she has been very glad when it is over. She did great this season, her last game she served the maximum times (5) and scored then they have to give the ball to the other team. She was pretty excited about that.
Allison had her AAU gymnastics meet in Manhattan Kansas. She did really well. The team ended up qualifying to go to the National AAU meet in Illinois in July. She is pretty excited about it. Ryan and I are happy for her that she enjoys gymnastics and she is doing well at it and continuing to improve.
Matthew just finished up his Freshman year on the baseball team. He was a really good bat this season. He played mostly 2nd or short when he was on defense. He did a good job and his coach seemed pleased with him. There last game of the season was rained out which was a bummer. He is looking forward to his season with his club team over the Summer.
There was a YM basketball tournament for our Stake. The boys all had a great time. Matthew loved it. Our ward had two teams. The team Matthew was on ended up making it to the final game and winning the tournament. Matthew was given the MVP award for giving all out effort all the time. They even let them cut the net down which was pretty fun for them.
I have some talented children. I love watching all my kids in their activities. I am glad they are taking the opportunities to improve themselves and work hard at something they enjoy.
Allison: I took a kiwi to school today for my snack.
Mom: That is a healthy snack. Was is hard to eat?
Allison: No, I got a plastic knife from the cafeteria to cut it when I ate it. I didn’t want it to get smashed in my backpack so I carried it around in my hand all morning.
Mom: (silently grateful she had the foresight to not take a real knife no school) Maybe next time cut it up first then you can leave it in a container in your locker or backpack. (Already know she is going to tell me she doesn’t care about “doing it the easy way”)
Allison: I don’t care if I have to cut it at school. People kept asking me what it was. Who doesn’t know what a kiwi is?! I put it on my desk in science and I had a bunch of people convinced it was a baby coconut. Then Mr. Hines comes over and tells everyone, “That is a kiwi, baby coconuts are not a thing. It has a sticker on it that says KIWI.” Then he walked off.
Mom: So now everyone knows what a kiwi is.
Allison: No. When he walked away, I told them kiwi is Spanish for baby coconut. Pretty sure at least three people believed me
Mom: 🤦🏻♀️
Another day…
Allison: Mom, do you know what a walk up song is? Like in baseball when the batter walks up he picks the song?
Mom: Yes, I know what a walk up song is.
Allison: Well, they don’t have those in gymnastics so I decided I wanted one for when I walk into my classes at school. The past couple days I have played one for most of my classes when I walk in.
Mom: Oh…ok. So what song do play?
Allison: The Imperial March. Darth Vadar’s theme song.
Then proceeds to laugh her head off.🤦♀️
This next picture is from a while ago, I came across it in my pictures the other day. Allison is known to leave various types of notes on her door depending on her mood. I will leave it up to the reader to guess her mood for this one.
Can you see what is different in the picture? A few weeks ago I went in for my regular eye check up and over the last few months I have started having occasional floaters in my left eye. So he dilated just my left eye. I have had both my eyes done before but never one. It was a little weird, and it freaked people out too.
I also learned that I now have a mole in the back of my left eye. I didn’t know that you could get moles in your eye but just like on the rest of your body they can develop over time. It is not the cause of my floaters (the kind I have are just caused from aging) just something he saw when he was looking. Getting older is just a bucket of fun. He did say that most people have to get readers when they turn 40 and my eyesight is just as good as it was last year, so it is nice to be bucking that trend for now.
Allison has been lobbying for a friend for Peanut for the last year or so. She has done lots of research on why they need a friend and pleaded her case many times. She even wrote a report titled, Why We Should Get Another Guinea Pig, and sent it to Ryan. A few weeks ago she got lucky and the stars aligned when she asked an we had a moment of weakness so we went to the store and she picked out a friend for Peanut.
He is a cute little bugger. Over the course of a week he had many names but she finally settled on Milo. He was only a few months old so he is pretty small. Peanut seemed to like him right away. They got along pretty well from the start. It has been about a month since we got him and they are buddies for life now. Now Emilee thinks she needs one too.
Matthew had a baseball tournament in Oklahoma a few weeks ago. It was actually for the sister team he plays with but they needed a few extra players so Matthew went. Long story short they ended up changing the rules for the tournament in the middle of one of our games-totally ridiculous I know- and our coaches decided that we were going to withdraw instead of let them just change things to make a point. So the tournament was a bust, but we had fun going to other games and were able to get back home earlier for Mother’s Day. Matthew’s main team has several siblings that Emilee plays with, there weren’t any that came on this team so she did a good job being a trooper even though she was bored most of the time. Allison stayed home with Grandma and Grandpa Terry instead of coming for the weekend. We are really glad that they live here. We all needed a break from each other and she loves spending time at their house.
Emilee’s I’m not having fun but fake it till you make it smile.
We weren’t under a mandatory stay at home order for Mother’s Day but it is still requested that you stay home as much as possible. Anyway, I requested the children each give a talk on mothers for church and sing me a musical number for part of our church at home sacrament meeting. They all did a good job. They sang ‘Gethsemane’ for me. I was hoping for a new song or a song related to Mother’s Day but I will take it.
With being stuck at home, I was able to keep up on the news more than usual. The important and the trivial. I decided to make a collection of the memes I thought were the best, either for sarcasm, irony, absurdness, or just plain funny. I picked my top 5 too.
The Office is one of my favorite sitcoms. During all the time this was going on, it was also the 15 anniversary for the show starting. I believe this meme is posted earlier in my blog but it made me laugh and it has some nostalgia to it so it gets a re-post here.
This got a good chuckle. Usually the sign is about accidents in the work place. Some nice ironic humor in lieu of the entire world being a dangerous work place. Also, if we had this sign at our house, the number got a lot higher than 6. Good old fashioned dad humor always gets a highlight on the list.Due to the horrible job and flat out lying the Chinese government has done with handling the virus they are under some world scrutiny. This meme was a dig at them from a different angle then everything else China related at the moment.Top 5 favorites. We are starting to see the evidence of no haircuts around our house. Matthew and Ryan are using this opportunity to try some new hair styles.
It is about the middle of May. The Kansas state wide stay at home order ended May 4th. Our county extended for another week. Bringing our areas stay at home order to last a whopping 52 days. Now we are in Phase II of the Covid 19 recovery plan. I believe phase IV is when things are supposed to be back to ‘normal’. The media and politicians are a mess, it is ridiculous to listen to everyone basically bicker and fight and make things up to get their own agendas across. The original idea of slowing the progression of the disease so health care could get prepared has now been changed to-no one should leave their house again until their is a vaccine or cure discovered, and if you think differently then this you are a selfish, hateful, evil person. We will not be done with Covid 19 until NO ONE ever is at risk of dying from it again. Interestingly enough the people I see against moving forward all have a guaranteed paycheck and other than socially their lives haven’t been disrupted that much. People on both sides of the argument have started protesting. The research and numbers from across the United States and other countries-excluding China who had obviously lied from the start, is coming back that while this disease is very contagious, it is not as deadly as first thought. The number of people that have or had Covid is way higher, I’ve seen reports that say 22-44% higher than the numbers show. So deaths are said to be between 4-10% are actually less than 1%. That is using the current death number which is suspected of including anyone that has died since March 13 whether it was from Covid or not. It is really hard to figure out what is fact or fiction on the news end of things. That is what the media is shoving in our faces. The impression I get and see and feel in my little world is that people are wanting to continue to be cautious but are ready to get back to their lives. There are risks all around us everyday. It is impossible and ridiculous to think you can eliminate and control them all. It is also quite evident that there are emotional and economical issues along with other consequences that I think are going to start causing a lot more problems than Covid, the longer things are put on hold.
We have done our best over that last few weeks to make the most of our situation and keep life happy and normal as possible. We have been blessed that Ryan has still been able to work from home. We have not had to worry about food or water or toilet paper or meeting financial obligations. We have been blessed with peace and calm in our situation. All of us have had struggles on occasion emotionally and socially. People are social and emotional beings and we have learned how important our needs in those areas are and require more attention then one might think. Luckily we have all been healthy for the most part as well. Ryan’s arm has started bothering him again, but he was able to get into Physical Therapy and is hopefully on the road to recovery. My finger was the only other trip to a doctor we have needed.
We decided to put in a basketball goal. This turned out to be a bigger project than planned. We ordered the first one and had Matthew dig the hole. Then we set the post and filled it with concrete. A few days later when we went to finish it we discovered there were missing and broken parts. So we tried to get a new one but the people we ordered it from were unable to tell us when that would be possible, if possible at all. So we returned as much of the old one as we could then ordered a new one from someone else. We got that one and it was the wrong one. Instead of a nice sturdy goal it was a cheap crappy one. So we returned it again and got the right one. This one was a square post instead of round so we had to dig a new hole and set the new post. Then dig out the original one enough to put dirt and grass in the area again. Finally we were able to get a basketball hoop in and we have all enjoyed it. Matthew taught me how to do a lay up too.
Matthew learned many new skills with this project. Including how to use a jack hammer.
How to fill a hole.
How to dig a hole.
And how to dig a new hole. LOL
I finished a project that I have had on my mind for a while. I did a picture wall in my basement. I have tons of frames I have collected over the years and plenty of pictures that I like to look at. I love the idea of a picture wall but I was worried about it not being my usually clean minimalist style and getting on my nerves after awhile. I settled on doing it in the basement because I knew it was going to be busy, but I wouldn’t have it in my face all the time so it wouldn’t bug my clutter avoidance side. I liked the way it turned out and I put a lot of my favorite snap shots over the years up. Just FYI the top far right picture has since been fixed so it is not crooked and taller then the rest. I promise.
We have gone on many walks over the last 52 days. Most around our neighborhood and on the near by walking path but we also explored several new areas too. I don’t know exactly I have just been told that Olathe has over 100 miles of walking paths to explore. We saw lots of animals on our walks including many different kinds of birds, frogs, snails, fish, cranes, squirrels, dogs, cats, spiders, rabbits, turtles and more. Matthew snorted a large bug up his nose on one of our walks. It took several minutes and lots of sneezing to finally get it out. I did not take a picture of it. My brother and his family came to see us for a few days on their way from Connecticut to their new home in Oklahoma. We went on a walk with them and saw a village of fairy houses that had been set along the path.
Very cute, very strong baby turtle.
Snail
One of the fairy houses.
Ryan and I also celebrated our 18th anniversary. I got a little excited and told everyone that it was our 19th anniversary, but Ryan showed me the math. LOL. We will plan on celebrating together later in the summer. On the actual day I went back to work for the first time in a few months, and Ryan traveled to Wichita for the week to help catch up on some stuff. Also his first time ‘going’ to work in over a month.
This is our favorite new recipe we discovered over the quarantine. Everyone liked it. Matthew said it is like eating at Chipotle. The elementary teachers all drove by in a car parade to say hi to the students. This was so exciting and a high light of our day.
A few weeks into the quarantine I got around to going through the kids back packs and putting them away for next year. I realized waiting this long was risky and when I opened Allison’s first and saw her lunch sack I was very nervous. Luckily she had emptied it at lunch her last day so when I opened it I was not accosted by rotten moldy food. The rest of hers and Emilee’s back packs was uneventful. I was about done with Matthew’s when I felt a lump in one of the side pockets. I dug it out and pulled out a potato complete with a face and hair. When all the kids saw it they were very excited to see “Beth” again. Apparently it had been several months since the last time they saw “Beth”. She was much more wrinkly and had grown some extra arms and hair. Thank goodness Beth didn’t turn into a pile of mush while tucked away in the dark pocket of Matthew’s bag. Apparently Matthew had made her for some project at school and when he brought it home everyone had met Beth on the bus then he forgot about it and left it in his bag. He even had a picture of Beth with one of his friends that had made a Rapunzel potato. Weird.
Beth as a young potato with her Rapunzel friend.
Several month older Beth on her way to the trash bin.
Most nights we tried to have a family activity before the kids went to bed. We would play a game, or watch a movie, or hang out and visit. One of our favorite games we ended up playing most nights is called ‘Cover Your Assests’. It’s perfect because even Emilee can play. She is actually pretty shrewd and does a good job. Matthew on the other hand is known for having the worst poker face ever and most often looses the game in spectacular fashion because he doesn’t use much strategy either. It was always fun though.
Emilee wanted a picture of her extra big win for one of her hands.
Family snuggle time.
Hair salons have been closed long enough for people who rarely get haircuts to miss one. For Matthew and Ryan who prefer to have their haircut every month they have missed a few. The girls have taken full advantage of their longer locks and enjoyed trying different styles for them. Both have been good sports about letting the girls have fun with their hair. Ryan has also grown his beard and let it grown until this past weekend. Then he decided to have some fun and shave a Hulk Hogan style mustache to gross us all out with. We went on a walk and much to Matthew dismay and my embarrassment drew far to much attention from passerbys. He has also gone to the store and a few other public places sporting his new look. Most people don’t know it is a joke and just think he is a gross weirdo, but his friends have all chimed in with their two cents. He is keeping it to get a reaction from his co-workers tomorrow on his video calls. Then I’m sure he will shave it and come up with some other creepy style. Matthew just looks at him and shakes his head and says, “How do you expect me or anyone to take you seriously when you look like that?!”
I went back to work last week. I am filling in at an office that opened the first day the stay at home order was lifted. It was a little stressful at first. One of their hygienists called and quit the day before because she couldn’t deal with the work and stress of coming back to work. The assistant had a panic attack about 15 minutes after being there. I had a pretty good mental battle of my own between rational and fear based anxiety. I think it will be a real problem for the majority of people when they start going back to work. After the first patient or two there we were able to get the flow down with the new safety precautions and procedures that we will have to do for an unforeseeable amount of time. It was nice to get out though and interact with people. I am going to be working there Monday and Wednesday until they find a new hygienist.
It is interesting to see the price and availability or lack of availability on certain items with all this going on. My kids always enjoy a fun slip-n-slide in the summer. I used to find them for 5-20 dollars. Granted they never last the summer but they can use them enough that I feel they get my money’s worth from playing on it. Pools opening up are still in question for summer so they have been begging me to get a slip-n-slide. When I started looking if you could find them you had to plan on paying anywhere from 100-250 dollars! They were heavy duty ones but they are still made of plastic. Good grief! I was able to find a ‘deal’ on one and told me kids they better take good care of it because this is the last slip-n-slide I will ever be buying. They have used it many times so far and love it. They best part is they can set it up and clean it up themselves.
This is how Allison’s first day of Summer went. Matthew and his friends were going to the pool so of course the girls wanted to go. I had to run to the store to get some things for them for Day Camp so Ryan was going to take them. As I was walking into the store Ryan called to tell me that Allison had broken her arm and they were headed to the hospital.
We went to the hospital closest to our house. I got there a few minutes after Alli. She was sitting in a chair waiting for them to take her back. You could tell she was in a lot of pain, she was focusing on keeping it together. Her and Ryan told me what happened while we waited for them to check her in. She had decided she was to excited to wait for Ryan to drive to the pool so she grabbed her towel and left on her bike, about 5 seconds into her ride the towel fell down and got caught in the wheel and flipped her over the handle bars. She had a couple scraps and of course her arm hurt really bad. She walked in the house and got an ice pack and told Ryan that she didn’t feel like going to the pool anymore and laid down on the couch. A few minutes later Ryan came to see if she really didn’t want to go swimming. She had her arm covered with the ice pack and asked him to get her a new one, he saw her arm when she lifted it off and realized that her arm was broken. She said, “Oh, that’s probably why I can’t move my fingers.” Then she got hysterical for a few minutes and Ryan said his brain was going hysterical too. He put the girls in the car and called me and headed to the nearest hospital. By the time they got to the hospital Allison had stopped crying and put her game face on. She never cried or even whimpered again after that.
A few minutes later they took us back and we started the waiting process for x-rays, doctors, and pain meds. When the x-rays came back it showed both bones broken, one obvious, one not so obvious. Since she was a kid and the way it was broken they wanted us to go to Children’s Mercy Hospital. They splinted it and gave her pain meds and sent us on our way. Ryan went home to drop Emilee off with Matthew and then met us there. Before he left to do that he gave Allison a blessing in the car then I took her to Children’s Mercy.
They put us in our room and Allison settled in and watched Harry Potter. The doctor came in and told her that they could give her more pain meds and do a shot in her arm to numb it then fix it, or do a shot in her arm that made her fall asleep and she could wake up when her arm was fixed. This seemed like an obvious decision to me but Allison didn’t even hesitate and said to just give her the shot to make it numb and fix it while she was awake. Ryan and I were both pretty surprised but she said she was sure. A little while later they came in to numb and set her arm. I sat at the bottom of her bed and rubbed her leg and tried not to pass out. She sat there and watched with only an occasional grimace and powered through it like a champ.
Through the whole process which took all day I was very impressed with Allison. It would have been totally fine if she was crying and upset. She definitely had a mental conversation with herself in the waiting room and you could see her decide to set her mind to the task at hand and handle the situation. When the doctor was explaining things, she listened and asked questions and when they were fixing her arm she cooperated and did whatever they needed without any issues. The doctors themselves kept saying over and over how impressed they were with how great she was doing.
Throughout the day she was asked several times if she needed anything to help make her comfortable. They wouldn’t let her eat or drink anything in case they had to put her to sleep, she didn’t complain about not eating ALL DAY even once, but she did ask if she could have some watermelon when she got home and a pizza with extra pineapple on it. Of course we made that happen. Her other request was she really wanted to see her brother, he was watching Emilee for us and can’t even handle someone talking about a broken bone let alone see one so he sent her some messages on the phone instead. Ryan and I were both touched that she wanted him for emotional support. After we got home Matthew sat in her room with her for a while and talked and hung out with her until she fell asleep. They have been spending a lot more time with each other since she broke her arm and it is nice to see them developing a closer relationship.
Ryan and I both had the thought separately that while it is crappy that she broke her arm it is also a blessing in disguise and opportunity for each of us to develop and work on our relationship with Allison without her having to much choice in the matter. Allison is extremely independent and isn’t always the most pleasant person to be around so the rest of us tend to keep a little more distance between ourselves and her than we do with other family members. Since she broke her arm she is limited on some of her regular activities and is around a little more than usual and obviously needs more help with things then she used to. She is also very particular about the way she looks and dresses and cares about presenting herself a certain way. She hates having to have help doing things that she has to do (shower, get dressed, brush and do her hair, cut her food, put on socks, tie shoes, carry things). Control is a big issue with Allison. It is very hard for her to even give the impression that she needs help because then she feels like she isn’t in control. This is when she can become quite unpleasant. Her SOP if she can’t control a situation to her desires is to take the stance that she could care less about it and wants nothing to do with whatever it was anymore at all costs. Again, this can be very unpleasant to be around. So while it would be annoying for anyone to not be able to put your shirt on. For her the situation is made even more loathsome and unbearable because she cares a great deal about her appearance and it irks her to no end that she not only has to ask for help, she has to wait and be dependent on when someone can help and be pleasant enough about it that whoever is helping her will continue to help her.
So the blessing in disguise, that for all involved seems to be very well if not perfectly disguised at times, is that Allison is presented with unavoidable ways to offer more opportunities of service and positive interaction with her to us, and we are presented with many opportunities to serve her and spend time with her in different ways then we are used too. It isn’t always pretty but I really do see many opportunities for each of us to better ourselves and our relationships with each other for the next 6-8 weeks she has her cast on. In case any of us are really slow learners though, Heavenly Father has given us plenty of extra practice time. We went to the doctor for a follow up a week or so after she broke it. They took a new xray and gave us an update. She will have her cast for 6-8 weeks minimum, then she will have a full time braces for several months, then she will be able to wear it part time for several more months. Then in 6 months to a year she can go back to her more active activities like gymnastics.
